Why? Because Life Can Be Good.

I spend too much time and energy wondering why so many others can’t find the joy and peace I’ve found in my life. I’ve always wanted life to be fair, and I guess I’m still looking for that to happen. Why am I blessed with the ability to feel joy, to forgive, and to love deeply? Why do I get to spend many of my days pursuing my passion and my dreams? I don’t know the answers to these questions, but I wish I did, so I could share them with the rest of the world.

I can’t answer these questions, and I may not ever know the reason why some suffer while others are blessed, but I can still do good in the world. One person can’t help everyone they see in need, so I try to help those placed in my path when I have the ability to do so. Maybe once in a while something I do or say will help someone else find what I have. I try to remember that I can’t dwell on the why me of blessings. I’ve lived through half a century of ups and downs, and never fell back into the why me when times were bad. I understand things happen for various reasons and no one is to blame. I don’t want to waste my blessings asking why me. I want to spend my future days concentrating on positive, and attracting more beauty into my life so I’ll have more to share with others.

Each time I come face-to-face with the cruelties of the world, I end up asking, once again,  if there is some way the world can be a better place. Each time I have to remind myself to move on, and pay attention to the good things in life.


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Words Are NOT Enough

I love words. I think because I lovCute teenager jumping with abstract blue scarf around here self-expression. I want to know what you think and feel. I want to be moved by the words of a poem or a good book. I want to see what you see. We can’t know how another human being sees the world unless they tell us, because each life experience is unique.

I have always loved languages, but the one I have a passion for is American Sign Language. As I sat to write this post, I suddenly had a new understanding of why I love that language so much. Sometimes, what we think and feel is too much to express in words. ASL (American Sign Language) allows me to add to that expression, or to see it in another person. There are some signs that don’t have an English word equivalent, and those tend to portray deeper meaning than one word could ever represent.

Do you express yourself? Is it something encouraged in our cultures today? I don’t know enough about all world cultures to speak to them, but I’m sure some are more open to self-expression than our U.S. American culture.


I had an Italian mom and an English/Scottish (among other things) dad. Dad set the atmosphere in the house, but Mom had an influence. So I come from two separate cultures on the emotional expression spectrum. My dad didn’t like to show emotion, except when he was angry. My mom couldn’t help showing emotion, even though she tried to hide it at times. I might have my dad’s logical brain, but I definitely inherited the emotional side from my mom. I FEEL.

Yes, I said it, “I FEEL.” Is that acceptable to you? “Well, of course we feel,” you say. But is it acceptable to show how I feel in front of you? If not, you probably try to avoid me. *BIG GRIN FROM ME*

If I’m happy, I show it. I might jump up and down, as much as I can at my age. I might giggle and tease and laugh like a child. If I’m sad, I probably cry, but I like to do that only with those I trust. If I’m feeling joy in living, I show it with my smile and my words and my actions. Why do we feel we have to hide that?

I imagine it’s still not “cool” in school to be a giddy, giggling girl or boy. I think it’s perceived as cooler to keep emotions in check. What about at the office? Yeah. Serious is better. We trust serious. Why is that? If we aren’t seeing true emotion, then that person is anything but honest. Why are intelligence and dependability equated with somber and serious?

I’m sure you show your feelings at times, and you probably share your more emotional side with your close friends and family. Is it uncomfortable to allow others to see your true feelings? Try to allow yourself to feel a little more each day and see what happens. If you keep those feelings of joy suppressed, then they lose their luster. They become dull and unresponsive. When we allow them to surface, and really experience them, our heart becomes more aware and more in tune with life.

Does this post resonate with you? If so, let me know. I have a feeling I’ll be posting more on this subject, because it’s one I’m PASSIONATE about!!

Have an amazing, wonderful, joyful day!!!!!

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What an Amazing Year

2014 was amazing. Yes, I do remember my husband almost dying, losing our home, and needing community help to survive. Yet, I can still say it was an amazing year. I don’t know if I’d be at this point in life without all the events of this past year. I’m loving life, and things are going well for the family. Maybe it had to be this way for me to learn so well.

If you’ve read other posts on my blog, you know my hubby had a Carotid Artery Dissection and after surviving that, he was disabled for 10 months. Well, he’s back to 90 percent and loving life!! The whole family has come to appreciate simplifying, and what’s really important.

I found out how many good, wonderful, awesome people are out there just in our community alone. I needed to see that. I continue to meet more amazing people all the time now. I will forever love and treasure the friends that stood by us through all our trials. We’re closer to our friends and our family, now more than ever.

And…Good things continue to happen. I now have the best jobs I could ever want. I get to teach (ASL) American Sign Language at college. ASL is one of my passions, and young people are another. AND…I get to write. One of my other passions. How did life become so full and wonderful?

Remember, if you are going through difficult times, things change. Nothing stays the same. The Universe is constantly moving, so appreciate the good things now, and know that more good will come in the future. I could never have imagined my life to be this amazing. I’m glad my hubby taught me how to reach for my dreams, and I’m glad I’m still on the Earth to experience it.

Each day is now a precious gift, and I love living it with purpose and positivity. The winter months can be hard for me, and some of my family, but this year has been filled with blessings. When you can’t wait to wake up in the morning and go to your job, you have found your place, and that’s how I feel.

I have been through dark times, and scary times, and many exciting, happy times. Life may be difficult at moments, but if you open yourself up to people, and love, and possibilities, it can bring an abundance of light and love too.

One of my greatest joys now is to share my gifts with others. I can share a smile, or my knowledge, or a few dollars. If we all shared the good things, then there would be so many more finding their way to light and positivity.

I wish I knew how to put into words the lessons I’ve learned over the past year. I want to package it up and present to the ones I love and the ones that really need it. I’ve also learned we all have our own paths, and lessons can only be accepted when we are ready.

Go…have a great day, and be open to the lessons around you. Don’t fear change, embrace it. Find someone to stand by you as you explore new ways to see the world. Sharing the journey makes it much more enjoyable.

If you want to chat, I’d love to hear from you. One of my other passions, as my family will tell you, is talking!!! Words, words, words. My name sign in ASL is the letter “L” combined with a sign for talking. So perfect!


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Shannon McRoberts – Artist/Author/Poet

I’d like you to meet my creative friend Shannon McRoberts. I’ve asked her to tell us a little about herself. Make sure to check out her links at the bottom. She has some pretty cool work to share.

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Chances are you have no idea who I am or what my world is about.  And that is OK.  Because today you learn that my fascinating world has a little of this and a little of that.

My website’s tagline is “The World of Shannon McRoberts”.  Not because I am a pretentious person, but rather I had so many different facets to share it was hard to find a single title to tie them altogether.  I say this because there are three main focuses of the site:  my art, my books, and my poetry.

The Poet:  I have been working with poetry
the longest oferosion of the heart all my artistic endeavors. It was the first art form I could create.  For years I kept it under lock and key, but eventually I released it into the light of day.  My poetry is often dark with longing undertones that ebb and flow down the page.  I published a book of poetry call Erosion of the Heart; however, my newest poetry is found on my blog under the poetry category.

The Artist:   I have been dabbling in art almost as long as poetry.Brenda of the Elven Wood  From pencils, to photography, to painting.  My favorite medium used to be oil paints, but as I grew up I found it increasingly hard to find the time or space to work with the oils.  I even found it hard to work with something like charcoal while my daughter toddled around the house.  I found an outlet though that worked for me:  3D Art.  I use DAZ Studio and Poser to create varying works of art.  There is no mess to clean up after and I can chase my daughter while my pictures are rendering.



The Author:   The last frontier, at least for me.  cursed bloods ebook cover option 2 subtle with smaller nameTwenty or so years ago I tried to write a book.  It didn’t end well.  (No pun intended)  I thought writing was a medium I would not be able to wrangle.  Yet, in the back of my mind a sparkle for a story appeared.  I sat down and wrote that story.  Then, ideas just kept popping into my head for other stories.  That is how Zarra and Athine were born.  This is how I began my journey to “turn mythology on its ear”.  Currently I have six prose books available, each centering on this world I built inside my mind.  If you like Once Upon A Time, Xena, Buffy, or Lord of the Rings then you will like The Daughter of Ares Chronicles.


Why not stop by my website today at www.theobsidianpoet.com or www.shannonmcroberts.com or www.myepiclore.com to find out how my world can entertain you!

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Introducing Author/Artist Interviews

I love writing. You know that if you follow me. I also love reading. I’ve made many new friends in the writing world, and it’s time I introduced some of them to you. Do you like poetry? Romance? Real life drama? SciFi? And yes, I have friends that write Erotica. My favorite of course is Paranormal Romance.

I’m going to be bringing a series of interviews to my blog so I can share my friends and their work with you. Let me know what you think!

Have an amazing day and follow your dreams!

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Life is Change, Life is Good

Wow. It’s been a long time since I’ve blogged. So much has happened, and most of it good. The last time I updated you was right after my husband became disabled. He is doing much better, and while still improving, the future looks bright.

I have been writing, and I am now a professor at the local college. I teach American Sign Language – ASL. I love working with young minds that are open and excited about new things. I am in love with my new job, my writing, my family, and my life. Crazy how things can change, and though we fear change, it can bring unimaginable blessings and joys.

Change is something I’ve spent a good deal of time contemplating lately. When you’re young, you can’t wait for some changes. You want to grow taller, get more independence, get your license, and become a man or woman. When you’re an adult, sometimes change can be a bad word. Maybe it’s a promotion, maybe it’s a layoff. Change can be frightening.

I remember when I was younger, I’d see older people complain about some changes and think it strange. They didn’t like when the store was remodeled. I liked it. Of course, I hadn’t been shopping there for twenty years. Now that I’m older…just a little :)…I understand. I like knowing where to find the peanut butter, or seeing the same smiling face at the cash register. So many things in life change, it’s nice to have SOME consistency.

If we believe the big bang theory, then all of the universe is changing, and yet seeking stability. Makes sense to me. I feel the same way. I wouldn’t go back and undo the changes in my life, because I love where I am right now. I couldn’t have asked for anything more fulfilling and exciting. But I can still be nervous that future changes will bring things I won’t want to experience.

I’ve learned to appreciate change. If we didn’t change, life would become stale. We’d miss out on new people and new opportunities. The changes I’ve experienced are keeping me young and flexible. I hadn’t realized how stagnant I’d become in some ways.

So…go have a great day. Embrace newness and look for the unique. Live and love your life today, because you don’t know what tomorrow will bring. Maybe we all be blessed with positive changes and many more opportunities than we can imagine.

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Positivity is Hard Work

I tend to think things happen for a reason, or that we can learn lessons from life events that will make a difference later in our lives. I’ve learned that what I need, or what my family needs, often comes about in unexpected ways and at the very last minute. *sigh* If only we knew that it would be all right, that we would find something even greater when we lose something, or that we will survive something better than we think, it would make it so much easier to endure the waiting and worrying.

I have always been a worrier. I married a worrier. My poor kids. :) But I have learned about being hopeful and positive over the years. If you know me personally, you know I usually have a smile on my face and people think I am always happy. I try to see the good things, the joy, and the wonder in life. I am thankful every day for my wonderful husband and kids, and try to appreciate each day, knowing the next one isn’t promised. I try not to hide behind the mask of being grown-up, responsible, and middle class. I like to be myself, in all my craziness. I wasn’t like this as a kid, but how much more time do I have to enjoy life now that I’ve passed half a century on this earth? I love humor and fun and love.

So recently, so much has happened to test my ability to stay positive. Sometimes I feel like I am being tested, or maybe I did something wrong. I am not one of the spiritual gurus that will tell you live in the moment and all will be fine. I am too grounded in reality at times. But I do try not to let life send me into a spiral of negative and destructive thinking.

If you read my post, Dreaming of Change, I felt like something powerful was happening in my life. Now that we are facing the loss of jobs, home, and health, I wonder if I am supposed to see this as a step forward. I can’t help it…I do hope that there is some wonderful lesson for me to realize at the end of all this. I’ve already learned that there are many, many more wonderful, giving, kind people in the world than I had ever imagined.

I have also learned more about my family and friends. My disabled sister, living on very little, was the first to give on my son’s fundraising site. It is the ones that have faced hardship that truly understand and give, either financially or emotionally. I now have “fallen in Love” with some of my friends. I’m not kidding. They might have been acquaintances before, but there hearts are so huge that  they are now aching for us, and I can’t help but fall in love. I can’t wait to be able to be a positive force in their lives again instead of making them worry and stress over me.

Some days I fail miserably at being positive and appreciating what I have. Other days, I am so overwhelmed with the goodness and hope in this world that I just know it will work out. Today, I am hopeful. I went to bed and hardly slept last night because of our situation, but I woke to such kind words, good advice, and so much love that I know it will be all right.

For those of you that don’t know, my husband recently suffered a carotid artery dissection. He is now limited for life, and in danger of another dissection or stroke. We lost our main income, and many more changes because of this. But we still have him, whole and present in our lives. For more on his story, you can go here: http://expressionsforlif.hubpages.com/hub/Carotid-Artery-Dissection

So, I am once again attempting positivity. Our new goal is to get enough money to  keep our family together. Now I must go pack, throw, organize, and move forward!!! Can’t wait to write about the wonderful things that are coming our way. If you are experiencing hardship, my heart is with you. Of course, who isn’t these days? If you would like to chat, I’d love to share some of the love I’ve been given.

Take a minute now to forgive yourself for whatever you are feeling is your fault. Did you do it? Do it again!!! Now go have a beautiful day.




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Radiant Heat: An Earth Minders Romance

Yay! My new Sci-Fi/Paranormal Romance is live on Amazon.

Here are 2 maps from the future world you’ll encounter is this new series.  You can find Radiant Heat: An Earthminders Romance at Amazon: http://mybook.to/RadiantHeat



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Radiant HeatTreyton has lived long enough now that he’s tired, and might have given up, if he hadn’t just met the one woman that makes him want to live even longer. Lexi is afraid the attraction has more to do with their genetics, than true love. Will they learn to trust each other and trust their instincts before someone else takes their choices away?

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I Will Miss Those Eyes

I was sorry to hear that Paul Walker had passed away. I try not to get to caught up in all the sad events in the world because we have enough in our own lives to deal with, but I can’t help it this time. He was young, talented, and came off as a nice guy. I’ve seen him many times in my living room because the men in my house love his movies.

He left behind a fifteen-year-old daughter, and that’s way too young to lose a parent. I hope she has plenty of other family to be there for her. The media always portrayed him as a good dad, a good friend, and a talented actor. He will be missed by many.

I will miss his eyes. They were amazing! When I mentioned to my family that he’d passed, my husband was shocked that I knew his name. I said, “Of course I know his name. He’s hot! I love his eyes.” He was so much more than a pretty face, but his family and friends know more about that than I do.

So many people are taken too early every day, but when it’s someone famous we all take note. There are always sad things happening in the world. Paul Walker provided a great distraction from reality when he was on the screen. The Fast and Furious movies were loved by so many. Hot guys and fast cars. They found a winning combination with that team.

I don’t have much to add to all the hype that’s been in the news about the accident or his life. I do hope they figure out what happened, especially so that the family can have some answers. I’ve seen articles that say the car was dangerous because it was too powerful for most people to handle, especially on city streets. At least it will serve as a warning to others, if they listen.

Paul Walker loved cars, and speed. He really had a chance to live in his short forty years on this earth. Let’s all take the time to live our lives remembering that the next day isn’t promised. Hug your family. Be a good parent and friend. And follow your dreams.

I write romance novels, so I have some fun things on my Pinterest boards for inspiration. Paul Walker is one the pics I’ve had on my boards for a while now. It doesn’t do him justice, and you can’t see the gorgeous eyes, but you can do a google search if you want to remember how blue they were. Rest in Peace Paul.

Paul Walker


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New Work in Progress

I’m working on something new. I love this stage. I’ve published two novels so far, and half-way through I always become convinced they’re terrible, even though I finish them and hope for the best. It’s a common writer’s issue, but I’m new at this and I’m still learning. Now I’m starting my third novel and I love the excitement of this phase.

Right now I know my characters, but not as well as I will when I’m done. I’m deciding their futures, their fate, their struggles, their issues, and their victories. I don’t write a detailed outline, but I do get some of the above settled before I start writing. Sometimes the story will take a detour I hadn’t predicted, and that’s fun too.

I had to stop today because I didn’t like my hero’s dialogue. I realized that didn’t fit with his personality. Then I realized…I need to know more about this guy!!! So, time to get to know him better. I recently read a post from a writer friend that said she was having “Tea Time” with her characters. She was taking the time to get to know them, and imagining what they would think, and do, and say. I guess that’s where I’m at right now. I don’t mind Tea Time with my sexy male lead. Time well spent, I say.

For those of you that read, and don’t write, I’ll let you in on a secret: Writing can be as enjoyable, as inspiring, as emotional and as exciting as reading your favorite books. I’ve always loved reading and getting lost in a great story. Once I finished my first novel, I became enamored with the writing process. I had to do it again! And again! Hopefully my skills will progress and someday my work will match my enthusiasm.

I’m making it sound like it’s all fun and games, but trust me, writing is hard work. It’s the excitement and joy writers get from the process that makes it all worth it in the end. It’s also the joy a writer feels when someone says they’ve read your work and loved it. If I never got any positive feedback, I’d probably stop publishing my stuff, but I’d never stop writing it.

So, time to get back to my current WIP (Work in Progress). It ‘s different from my first two novels because it doesn’t involve a psychic, but it does involve some special abilities. If I’m going to have fun creating a world, and its characters, then I’m going to make them do things that we can’t do in real life. It’s just part of my fun.

Time to answer some questions. If you’d like to help, leave a comment for me.

What makes a great leading man? What traits, situations, beliefs, are necessary to be the sexy, perfect alpha male?

Time for Tea. :) Have a great night.

If you’d like to check out my first two novels, you can find me at Amazon and other online bookstores.




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